Career Lessons I’d Give My Younger Self

At 21, I stood on the edge of the so-called “real world,” eager to begin writing professionally and excited about the possibilities of city life. I had already held a variety of jobs in high school—babysitting, teaching gymnastics, staffing the snack bar at a country club—and in college I waitressed while completing a paid internship. I thought I understood hard work, growth, and hustle. I felt ready for adulting and confident I could launch a successful career.

Now, after ten years in communications, I’ve done well, but I’ve also had a fair share of facepalm moments and lessons I wish I’d learned earlier. I can’t go back in time, but I can share the top 20 pieces of career advice I wish my younger self had taken to heart—and why they matter.

Pick Up The Phone

A former coworker advised me to email less and call more; I dismissed it as old-fashioned at the time. I was wrong. In a digital-first world, so much nuance gets lost in text—tone, urgency and intent can all be misread. Why spend 15 minutes crafting the perfect message when a quick call can yield a clear answer in five? Hearing someone’s voice reveals subtleties that help you navigate the context and reach your goal faster.

Actually Get To Know Your Team

I used to wonder why coworkers became friends; weren’t they supposed to have lives outside of work? But the people around you are one of your greatest assets—not to be used, but to learn from. Building relationships means you’ll have allies when things get busy, and you’ll gain insight into others’ strengths, weaknesses, and the pressures they face. Understanding what makes someone tick creates a human connection that eases collaboration and problem-solving.

Ask For A Raise

I spent months wondering whether I would receive a raise or bonus after reviews. I should have advocated for myself. As a manager now, I notice those most likely to get promoted are the people who tactfully make the case for their contributions and compensation. If you consistently go above and beyond and deliver quality results, ask to be paid accordingly. Self-advocacy signals that you understand your value.

Don’t Assume

Assumptions lead to mistakes and stereotypes—about ability, background, or intent. Don’t jump to conclusions when problems arise. Instead, gather context, ask questions, and base decisions on facts rather than guesses. Clear information prevents wasted time and damaged relationships.

No Task Is Beneath You

Almost every job includes tasks that feel menial—filing, data entry, errands. Don’t roll your eyes. Leaders respect people who are willing to do the work, and doing the basics well gives you a fuller understanding of how an organization functions. Starting at the bottom strengthens your perspective and highlights where you can make real impact.

Questions Aren’t a Sign of Weakness

Early in my career I stayed quiet in meetings when I didn’t understand an ask. I thought asking questions would make me seem incompetent. But the smartest people are curious and ask many questions. You don’t need to know everything—your goal is to learn. Clarify expectations, probe inconsistencies, and close knowledge gaps; doing so shows initiative, not weakness.

Don’t Bow Down to Bullies

Bullies in the workplace—especially in leadership—can make you feel silenced. You don’t have to tolerate disrespect. Persistent belittling, interruptions, or manipulation are unacceptable. Bullies often act out of insecurity or a need to belong, but that doesn’t excuse their behavior. Document incidents, speak to HR, and stand up for yourself. You deserve a respectful work environment.

Always Take a Seat at the Table

As a junior assistant I’d sit at the back of the room so I wouldn’t be in the way. I didn’t think I belonged in the conversation. But you were hired for a reason—show up and contribute. Take your seat, share your perspective, and make sure your voice is heard when it matters.

Your Lack of Preparation Is Nobody Else’s Problem

Running late on work and offering excuses is a weak habit. While emergencies happen, most missed deadlines come from poor prioritization. Don’t make your poor planning someone else’s problem. Build schedules, plan buffers for setbacks, and deliver on time. Reliability builds trust and credibility.

It’s Okay To Feel Like You Don’t Know What You’re Doing

Imposter syndrome affects everyone sometimes. Feeling out of your depth is often a sign you’re growing. Many people “fake it until they make it,” and that’s part of professional development. Lean into discomfort—those moments often produce the deepest learning.

Embrace Risk

Doing your job well is important, but playing it safe won’t always set you apart. Take calculated risks—try a new idea, test a different approach, or propose an experiment. Curiosity and thoughtful risk-taking often lead to the biggest rewards and learning opportunities.

You’re Not Better Than Anyone Else

Lose the ego. Confidence matters, but humility does too. Teams function because varied skills and perspectives come together. Treat every colleague with respect and recognize that your success often depends on others’ contributions.

Unexpected Detours Are Hidden Lessons

I planned to go to law school and studied for the LSAT, but I realized I didn’t want to be a lawyer. After a period of uncertainty I took an unexpected associate editor job at a church—off my planned path—and it taught me how to read, write, and edit. Those skills led to roles in healthcare communications and freelance writing. Detours often teach you what you need to know next.

Follow-Through Trumps Genius

You can be brilliant, but execution matters more. Being the person who consistently delivers results—quickly and reliably—will advance your career. For me, dependable follow-through led to multiple promotions in a short time.

Be Willing to Adapt

The workplace rarely follows a linear path today. Be prepared to shift roles, learn new systems, or move companies when circumstances change. Flexibility and nimbleness are valuable traits that keep you employable and resilient.

Don’t Gossip

Gossip damages trust and your reputation. Avoid it whenever possible. Venting occasionally is normal, but don’t make a habit of spreading rumors—especially if you’re trusted with confidential information. Take the high road and set a professional example.

Give Yourself Permission to Change Your Mind

Leaders who can revise their stance when presented with new information demonstrate maturity. Admitting you were wrong or making room for another opinion is brave. Prioritizing what’s best for the situation rather than preserving pride earns respect and leads to better outcomes.

Articulate What You Want

No one can read your mind. If you want a particular project, responsibility, or development opportunity, say so. Communicate where you feel energized and how you want to grow. Vocalizing your interests makes it easier for managers to align assignments with your goals.

Take Your Lunch Break

In hustle-focused cultures it’s tempting to skip breaks and eat at your desk. Don’t. Taking real breaks—lunch away from your screen, a short walk, or using vacation days—recharges you. Rest improves productivity, creativity, and well-being, so prioritize time to breathe.

You Spend A Lot of Time Working – Find a Way To Enjoy It

Work occupies a large part of life. You don’t need a perfect job, but find elements of your role that bring satisfaction. Enjoying what you do—big or small—helps you show up with energy rather than dread. Life’s too short to hate what you spend so much time doing.